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Hello Everyone,
Has been a while but things have been busy. Not only did I manage to drown the car but also something told me that by doing so I prevented worse. Still not done it on purpose though - but it is a weird feeling as both my partner and I are certain that it meant to be and helped us staying healthy.
What I am describing here is almost as scary as the Secret, see last entry for link, which I watched tonight. It is all about where our thoughts are that the universe reacts to that energy flow and makes things happen. NLP would call it “moving towards to something and not away from”. We need to focus on what we really want and our dreams and wishes come true.
Phrase it positive. You do not want to lose weight. You want to be slim. Slim is the word you focus on not weight. Imagine yourself being skinny and you will be.
Will it work? I will do the test. I have so many things I want and wish for. Monetary/Materialistic wishes. But also other wishes like happiness, health and love.
I am curious - join me in the experience of the secret.
Finally - yesterday arrived Jung’s book “MAN AND HIS SYMBOLS“. I was waiting for it for almost 10 days. Guess the postal strike did not help - I will let you know more about this book once I had a closer look.
Also waiting for the movie “THE SECRET“. Ordered it ages ago at a HK based DVD shop who is half price Amazon but it takes double the time. Never used to. Anyhow, hope it arrives shortly as my NLP community in Germany is talking quite a bit about it.
Also, I am in a “clearing out” mood this weekend. I found all those magazines “Personal Success” from the Coaching Academy. To be perfectly honest most issues just go unread to the bin as it is always the same story to me about “how great that I became a coach - I changed my life and then I changed everyone else’s life”. Is that all feasible?
The book recommendations are interesting but most of them are the guru books of “how to change your life in 10 days“. I have read plenty it almost always comes down to be what you wanna be and what lays deep inside you. Will that change the face of coaching?
I personally trained with the coaching academy which I value. Jonathan done a great job to make coaching more popular in the UK and helped a lot of people. I still think to get accredited by the academy but do not believe I increase my skills by paying for the course, mainly because most coaching techniques are based on NLP. Other courses in psycho-analysis for instance might be better spent - but I let you know more in due course.
Back to the magazine. Issue June 2007 has an article “You have a book in you - how to get it out”. Read what coach Jurgen Wolff has to say and start writing today. Also, feel free to get his book “Your writing coach”. Whilst these articles are very motivating, how many will read it, buy the book and never do anything unless - supported by a coach? Someone who gives you the stepping stones and the motivation. For a coach himself/herself it should be easy to write a book (saying that … believe me it is not).
The April issue had a great page on “What you must do to start your own business”. Lots of helpful hints. The May issue stays unread - nothing benefitial for me. Saying that I am sure it is beneficial for most of the readers, so fair enough.
I remember when I was 10 years old or a little older and we got a task to read a book in school. I read it from A-Z. Why? I must. I must not miss out….until I learned later on in life to concentrate on what I want to read. What I most benefit from. I read about 10 books at the same time. Some over years, a page a month or year - just to keep going on certain topics. Then again I read a 250 pager the other week in 3 days.
Have a great Sunday out there.
Hello All,
Not many people read this blog at the moment. Think I need to write more about myself. If I moved this blog to Facebook probably the whole nation is interested….
Back to the main purpose of this blog: it is purely to cover some ground on NLP topics, coaching and philosophical ideas. Things we can change and how we can change it.
What - What is it you want to change?
How - How is it really affecting you?
Why - Why do you really want to change how it is affecting you?
This goes beyond the usual “textbook” - we look into deeper understanding of the mind.
Often I think that looking beyond certain reasoning and beyond people’s motivation I find a psychological problem. Or are all those problems just human and not problems at all. Meeting so many different people lately being away in Germany it seems as if a whole nation has inherited behaviour. Is that possible? If so - will it ever change?
Without wanting to sound prejudice but obvioulsy the older generation in Germany grew up with the stigma them being evil and having to apologies for the 2nd world war. The younger generation partly inherited that thought but some did not. The world-cup last year seems to give Germany some identity and people forgot about their history “giving it a new go“. Ergo, the economy grows, self-confidence grows, spending power grows. All very positive effects.
Can someone imitate or model that behaviour? What if we could model it and implement it in the UK before the 2012 games - would we be able to achieve double the effect? Will China after the 2008 games grow even more massively and liberate itself from communism completely?
I do not want to start a political or historical debate but a purely behavioural debate. Can you train your children to be more successful after they won a soccer-cup? I think you can. Anything can boost your self-confidence, you just have to realize it.
Have a great weekend. Summer is supposed to come back.
Another weekend.
I talked to a good friend throughout the week who introduced me to a coaching form. A collection of questions to fulfil certain tasks in order to achieve - happiness?
Whatever one wants to achieve one can set stepping-stones for oneself. But of course there are a lot of forms out there and not all stepping-stones are suitable for everyone.
This form had 100 maximum points and I was devastated only getting 11 out of it. Talking to my friend he says that I did better than him and most people, however, he only aims for 60 as not everything is applicable.
It reminds me of this study they did in Stanford I believe where 50% of the graduate had to write down their goals in life and the other 50% did not. The ones that clearly defined their goals did achieve them and performed better than the control group on their overall career path. Why?
Because if one defines his goal one likes to achieve it, then one is committed and will be working towards it (common sense). One makes (almost) anything happen to achieve the so wanted outcome. This can be monetary, learning a language, reading a book, giving up smoking, loosing weight etc. - defining those goals and making sure that they happen is the job of a coach.
Contact me if there is a goal you need help with to achieve it! I give you the motivation and help you finding the stepping stones!
Have a great and peaceful sunday.
By the way - today is the first day of “smoke free England” - anyone interested on how to give up smoking? Contact me and I show you how to beat the habit!
I almost forgot. My friend Mitch from the US sent me a couple of links I am sure he does not mind me publishing them here. They are all about motivation.
http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog/2007/04/01/some-positive-motivational-video-links/
I have not watched the Secret one but wait for the DVD to arrived. This one is a favourite of mine:
Find out more about Mitch on his homepage and blog!
http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com
http://www.ttmitchellconsulting.com/Mitchblog
Dear Reader,
It seems to be on Sundays when I have some time. Maybe not loads but I was away again all week and only now finished the book “Memories, Dreams, Reflection” by Jung.
On page 369 he writes “Hence I prefer the term “the unconscious”, knowing that I might equally well speak of “God” or “daimon” if I wished to express myself in mythic language. When I do use such mythic language, I am aware that “mana”, “daimon”, and “God” are synonyms for the unconscious - that is to say, we know just as much or just as little about them as about the latter. People only believe they know much more about them ….” - he describes the advantages of calling the unconscious God/daimon by getting a better objectification or personification.
If the common unconscious, the overall knowledge of the world, is resembled in terms like God or mana, would that mean that we represent our knowledge just in different ways but as long as we believe in the theory of someone watching over it or someone keeping it we are safe. Then we believe in one way or another that the knowledge is kept and accessible for everyone? Do I really understand what Jung wants to tell me there?
For years I used to believe in God but, going through puberty, I decided it is not the thing I can believe, it did not make sense. I now, almost 15 years later, discover that what people call God is the unconscious, the common knowledge represented in one figure? Is the daimon Hillmann talks about (see entry 10th of June) maybe the knowledge giving to us as well. And if we start questioning our own daimon we get to know the unconscious and ourselves?
Why not stand up to our daimon and ask him/her why we are here in this world and what knowledge s/he got for us. It reminds me of a passage of the bible where people question God about the reason he put certain strains upon them.
Is it to believe in any of the theories or is it to help us understand ourselves? Not to become insane thinking about the here and now? Finding a reason of being to make our life worthwhile?
Jung mentions he sees himself as the one that asks questions and that this seemed to be the purpose of life. Has every unconscious a reason for everyone’s life? Is that the daimon then or God who leads our way? Or is it all about trusting in yourself but knowing that the knowledge is kept somewhere if you need it?
ballueder
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